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Offer small gifts to
friends, such as a bag of tea and sugar (for a man), a bar of soap (for
women), or 10 kola nuts (for older men). These are traditional gifts of
respect and thanks. To show enormous gratitude to someone, buy them a
sheep.
Wear loose, non-form-fitting
clothes that cover your entire leg. West Africans wear shorts as
underwear. A woman’s thighs are never displayed in public.
Offer part of the food you are
eating to whomever is near you, even strangers. It is considered very
rude to eat in front of people. Even if you barely have enough for
yourself, you should nonetheless offer out of politeness. Most people will
refuse by saying they are full or take only a small amount to be polite.
Adopt an African name. Western
names are hard to pronounce and have no meaning in West Africa. African
last names identity a person as a member of a clan, tribe, or other
societal group, even if only as a temporary adopted member.
When someone asks you what your name is, say you don’t have one
and request that they give you a name. Most often they will give you
their own last name and treat you like they would a cousin.
Treat anyone older than you
with respect, and treat the elderly as if they are God’s prophets.
Anything they say is true and cannot be denied. Give them everything they
want, and go out of your way to show them respect. No one will side with
you against an old person, and saying, “I am older than you" if
it’s true, will always get you your way.
Don’ts:
Don’t touch money,
food, merchandise, or another person’s skin with your left hand.
The left hand is used for dirty tasks, such as nose blowing and cleaning
oneself.
Don’t walk on
someone’s mat with your shoes. West Africans carry plastic or woven
mats with them everywhere they go. Mats are their magic carpets of
cleanliness.
Don’t sniff food that
someone has given you or merchandise that you are Interested In buying.
The action of sniffing in West Africa is always taken as a gesture of
disgust.
Don’t whistle,
especially at night. Whistling is considered strange, lewd, and
unpleasant.
Don’t stare people in the
eyes. West Africans interpret this as a sexual come-on or
belligerence. Make brief eye contact while speaking to someone then
glance away.
Don’t say no.
Africans use the word “no” almost exclusively to negate a factually
untrue statement, never to deny a request.
By Rachel Schneller. |
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